Lately I’ve had this idea that modern day relationships are usually very 1 sided. Especially if you’re a simp. As a recovering simp on the road of becoming a ‘normal human’. I’m starting to see how society is really set up to make relationships one sided in favor of a woman.

As men, we are expected to protect, provide, be a porn star, make her laugh, keep her entertained, help around the house, spend time with her, anticipate her needs, figure out when to help and when to just listen, find the balance between being strong and emotional, deal with her changing needs, be patient with her. Give her freedom, yet also put your foot down. We have to be the leader, be ambitious, be giving and self sacrificing. Like it’s a lot having to deal with a woman if you want to keep her happy. In many ways (and I know women aren’t animals) but it’s like having a needy pet.

As for us (me anyway), we usually only require faithfulness, agreeableness, and just be a good person overall. Beauty is great, but she doesn’t have to be a model. Just be a good person overall. Not perfect, just good. Do the basics, be honest, help keep the house clean, give consistent sex (not even all the time) and don’t be a bitch. Like….why is that so hard?

We are expected to take a lifestyle cut in order to support our family. If we make more money, we are expected to cover the bills based on income percentage at the very least. If she makes more money, you’re lucky if she’s goes 50/50 with you. And you better be on the path of meeting or exceeding her income level very very soon. How is that for reciprocity in this age of women’s rights?

Think about it. What do we get in return for all of this…….pussy and for her to treat us like a decent person. An argument can be made that she ‘sacrifices her body’ in order to have kids. Still though, in this day in age, while she does actually carry the baby, most modern men (that I know) still stay up all night and split the responsibility once the baby is here while still maintianing the house, their jobs, and responsibilities.

Apparently though, this is simpish behavior. Ironically, despite a man doing ALL of this shit they say they want, while requiring the bare minimum in return….many women still find themselves unhappy, bored, and unfulfilled a lot of times in marriage. They seem to be attracted more to the men who put themselves first and put them (women) through hell. If you don’t trauma bond her, she probably ends up cheating or leaving. You can’t be a “good” man for real for real. It’s boring.

Then if you happen to meet those expectations, the bar gets set higher. It’s like you’re first and goal, but the line of scrimmage suddenly moves back 10 yards every time you make some forward progress. And while you’re out there pushing, grinding, and doing whatever it takes to get one more yard…they sit back on the sidelines and complain to their work husband or object of lust about how much you suck as a man…..before lustfully sucking him off in a parking lot on a random Tuesday. Meanwhile, you’re lucky if you can even get some lazy head on your birthday.

The sick thing is that we sign up for this bullshit. We actually get down on one knee in a submissive position and beg her to be with us. We spend this money on a gotdamned overpriced ring. Pay for an overpriced celebration (wedding)…. Pay for a honeymoon vacation just to get the same pussy we’ve probably already been fucking…..Just to work for her in hopes that she won’t cheat, keep us sexually satisfied, and not leave. However given that 80% of all divorces are filed by women, a good percentage of us fail. Then she takes our kids, break our homes, or ends up fucking the neighbor with the excuse of she just wasn’t happy. If we are the primary breadwinner, then she takes half our shit….regardless of if she was the one who fucked up the marriage or not.

Listen man, marriage is probably one of the dumbest things we as men can do in the 21st century. The only thing women really bring to the table is sex. I mean seriously. Women typically don’t enjoy our hobbies and usually aren’t even interested in learning to like them. They want too much shit. They are materialistic. They have mental issues a lot times. They are emotionally needy. And got forbid they don’t get what they want, they act like spoiled children with entitlement issues. ANY excuse will do as justification if they feel like cheating on you.

They want the big house, the fancy trips, the expensive date nights. We can cook, we can clean, we can pay our own bills. TBH, I’m happy going to work, coming home, working out and chilling. Maybe drinking, visiting family and friends, and playing video games on the weekend. I’m good. I’m grateful. The bills are paid. I don’t need an expensive ass house full of expensive ass furniture. I don’t need for her to entertain me. I don’t bask in her glow or anything.

Seriously, what the fuck are we doing? Outside of raising a family together in a stable home. Why put yourself though all that bullshit and put your life on hard mode. The worst part is, they be acting like they are doing you a favor. Like you’re somehow indebted to them just because they give you increasingly lazier pussy. Like they are the prize. What do you get for your birthday, holidays, or special events…..the same pussy you always get maybe this time in some new lingerie (which might i add is usually there to make HER feel sexier). Maybe you’ll get some socks or another tie for that suit you only wear to interviews, weddings, and funerals.

I don’t know man, the juice don’t seem worth the squeeze. I mean yeah the sex is good and all but still…..you’re also expected to keep them sexually satisfied…..so that’s a wash. It’s even I mean assuming they actually tell you the truth about how good you’re hitting it.

Another point is that if you’re the guy they actually feel physical lust for, they don’t require any of that other shit from you.

The best case scenario for a man to have with a woman in 2022 is the to be the guy she’s attracted to who is fucking her the best. You aren’t required to do shit…..at worst she may want commitment from you, but you really don’t have to give it to her.

I never liked being a side dude, because I don’t like sharing women, but for real, given the alternatives and the work required to keep that woman…..it may just best to try to find a friend with benefits or either go monk mode. Side dude is 3rd on the list. I find it the idea deplorable though…..it’s dishonorable as well as gross. But given the choice of being the poor smuck who is playing that unwinnable game and still getting cheated on or being the side dude, the latter is definitely the preferred option.

To most women, a “good” man isn’t good enough. Doing the basics isn’t good enough because she believes she ‘deserves’ the best. Asking to be her man is basically saying you’re the best……and guess what….she’s gonna hold u to that. Impossible task because over time, your validation isn’t enough for her. Your compliments no longer have the same effect. That youngin at the store who called her gorgoeous will have her swooning while u give her same compliment, it’s almost like saying “nice weather we’re having today.”

I think women really don’t understand how much they complicate men’s lives and don’t appreciate the sacrifices we make for them because they feel ‘entitled’ to it. As simps, we make them feel ‘entitled’ to it……and that shit gotta stop. The thirst and simpin is strong in this era, so I doubt that happen anytime soon.

Simps are gonna keep simping and their women are gonna just keep oppressing them while fucking the ladies men behind their backs. Lust is love to most of these women and good luck with maintainng that over time while doing ‘real’ life over time with her. Unless you’re the type of dude who can trauma bond her, I wouldn’t recommend it.

Unpopular opinion, but moving forward, if (and that’s a big IF) i were to ever get married again. She needs to ask me. I am required to sacrifice and risk way too much while getting so little in return to be seen as less than a prize. I’ll be damned if I get on one knee and beg a woman to be with me who isn’t reciprocating half of what I’m giving to her. She wants to hold sex as a carrot and stick type of deal. I gotta keep stepping it up if she see’s me every day. She wants me to attempt to do the impossible which is to satiate the unsatiable. And…. I gotta regulate her emotions which she herself can’t even seem to control?

If money can’t keep rich people together. Porn stars don’t have good marriages. Celebrities get divorced all the time. Comedians usually end up alone……what chance does an average guy out here have to make it out of marriage to the other side. This system isn’t working. It’s stupid and it really has no benefit for a man this day in age. It’s too much work, too little reward, and too much risk.