I used to think that most people, by and large were good. I mean I believed that there were pretty shitty people in the world, but for the most part, I think I was naive to how bad they were. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t completely clueless, but I thought pretty much everyone thought like me in the sense of living by the golden rule.
As time goes on, I am starting to believe otherwise. The scary part about this is that I’m starting to wonder if people who do wicked things even know that they are wicked in the first place. I think this wake up call from my wife probably started this. However, looking online at the comments on videos, I am starting to believe that she isn’t really rare in her thinking.
It’s so easy to find wicked women who lie, cheat, and gaslight the men in their lives, but yet still think that they are “good” women. Either that or they know that they are wicked, but just don’t care. I think my wife is wicked…..I mean wicked is as wicked does….. yet she somehow thinks she is deserving of real love.
She lies so much that it’s a bit disturbing. I jokingly confronted her about trying to cast a spell on her current lover in order to get him to leave his girl. Normally, I don’t recommend snooping, but with her, I have to in order to keep my sanity. She lies so much and so convincingly that if I didn’t, I’d probably start believing her.
She actually has done research on how “love spells” and even hired a so called “psychic” who gave her some sort of love candle or something. She lied to me and told me that it was a chakra candle to “align” her chakras. Complete bullshit. I know a bit about chakras and was quizzing her on her understanding. She could tell me nothing. The lack of self respect she has for herself in this matter has completely dissipated any remaining respect I may have had for her. I tease her saying that she gives off “side chick energy”, but she completely denies it. Though her lover has a girlfriend she is desperately trying to get rid of. It’s sad that she shares a guy, but it’s even worse that she wants them to split when they have children together.
I mean seriously…..how doesn’t she think that if a person will cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you. I think she’s also seeing her so called male “best friend” on the side from time to time. I saw where she texted him about coming to see her a few nights. She also told him that I was still salty about the fact that he slept with her and she invited him over to the house. They just laughed about it and she told him how much she can’t stand me. He pretty much responded with an “oh well”….. and asked to see her tits.
TBH, I’ve been over it, but she has sunk so low in her moral character that there is no way I could ever like ever be back with her. I am scheduled to have a consultation with a divorce attorney today. Hopefully they will give me some good news. She still hasn’t signed the noncontested papers though she cliamed to have paid an attorney for that. I signed my half, but she still as of yet hasn’t.
Is she really this stupid? Does she really think that a man will take her seriously knowing that she’s out cheating on her husband? What kind of man would actually take her on for anything more than sex knowing that she is away from her own son for so long for no real reason. I mean most good mothers would not want to be away from their child for so long without having a damned good reason. Though she does visit like twice a month for a few days, she is missing so much of him growing up. She has missed a lot over the past few years.
Her excuse…..she’s making more money in NYC…..yet an investigation shows that her electric bill way past overdue being like $1500. She is now tapping into the joint account and pretty much spent all of the money out of that. She’s taking out pay day loans. And when asked about sending me money for the mid month bills, she doesn’t have it and says she’ll send it on Friday. She wasn’t even paying her taxes and now we owe the IRS 14k. How is she so damned broke. She said her purpose for taking the jobs in NYC was to get the extra money. I’m thinking about filing separately so we could at least get a refund. Why should I have to incur the debt that she made by making stupid decisions and it isn’t like I benefitted off of it.
She barely cleans when she’s here and sits around all day doing God knows what. She’s barely making it financially for a nurse practitioner on travel pay in NYC….. yet the joint account is showing transactions for $50 here and $100 there being payed to a so called psychic. I really think there are a few screws missing in her head. Then she has the nerve to call and bitch and complain to me about kiddo lying to her and not “handling his business” when she’s here. He lies about his school work as not to get into trouble, though I am trying to teach him that it’s better to tell the truth and face the consequences.
This is just sad man. My family is becoming a train wreck and I can’t help but to want to put so much blame onto her. She just doesn’t seem to get it or seem to care. The other day, I asked her about her behavior and she says that she is faithful. “How sway” i asked her and she says that she was faithful for the first few years of our marriage. My mind was blown that she could say something so stupid with a serious face. I started to explain to her how that was dumb, but what’s the point. I just said “OK” and walked away.
This is why conversation with her is basically pointless. She’ll either stonewall and say nothing, gaslight or lie, or just say stupid shit like the above statement on her ‘faithfulness’. This is an unwise woman and yeah, I’m bitching about it because I don’t want to be in this situation and have been on her ass about filling out the paperwork. I say let those guys fight it out. She isn’t worth it and I say that she can be their problem. Let them hash it out over her.
We could have been much better off if she wasn’t so…. like that.
It’s like I still have to figure everything out and she offers no help. No insight. No support. Yet she thinks she’s a catch or something. It’s just hard to wrap my head around her mentality. Not to mention she’d always be liability given her lack of self reflection, morals, and rational thinking. She’s easily corrupted by manipulative men (such as her so called-best friend) who in my opinion is an obvious dirtbag. I really think she is on the spectrum, she’s losing brain cells, or she might really be stupid like for real. Her mental health is rapidly declining and she’s unable to mask it. I am starting to wonder if life is actually too hard for some women and they really need to be in the house doing menial tasks.
As much as I complain about her, a lot of this is on me for not taking the proper steps and acting like she could act as a decent partner in some capacity. I expected way too much out of her. Even after the affairs began. I mean if she didn’t want to be here, then why not simply help me get this divorce. I mean, that sounds reasonable to me. Regardless of how I felt about divorce, I wasn’t trying to be kept in a disrespectful situation and she showed me that she didn’t respect me. I never tried to make her stay, but I’m pretty sure that her so called lovers get the impression that I’m somehow trying to hold on to her. It makes sense to get a noncontested because I don’t want anything from her and I don’t have much she can take….why go through all this extra money to pay for divorce attorneys when she has made it abundantly clear that she doesn’t want me and I damn for sure don’t want her anymore. Like I told her a million times, I did love our family, and I would have fought for her, but never over her.
I am stuck in limbo and the only way out is seems is going the attorney route. She listens to what I have to say, shit, I’ve said it at least 100 times. I’ve laid out possible plans, but she never acts upon them. She gets dickmatized easily and just acts like that’s the only thing that matters in the world. As if her actions don’t directly and indirectly affect kiddo. She’s too gotdamned old for this shit. Selfish and stupid. I’ve been seeing irrational and selfish women pop up everywhere online. It’s like an epidemic or something. These women have the emotional intelligence of a fish sandwich and the utility of a jar of pickles. The moral of the story is to vet and choose wisely.
I’m getting out.