After a few months of talking to one of my female friends about ‘relationships’, I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t think they are for me. Not serious one’s anyway.
I’ve realized that I really don’t want to “take on” a woman because I can’t bring myself to care like that anymore. She says that I don’t care about women’s feelings, but the reality is that I while I do care, I don’t want to be responsible for maintaining her. I’ve been in that position a few times and I gotta tell you, it’s really not worth it. Even good case scenario, you’re not gonna get sex as much as you want and u still gotta sacrifice a lot to keep her happy.
It’s too much like work. And to me it’s not worth it. It’s like owning a needy pet or something. There is just so much maintenance in having to keep one “happy” beyond the honeymoon phase. This part really blows her mind for some reason. I guess her premise is that women somehow make men’s lives easier or better or something.
We bicker back and forth sometimes and she teased me about being unable to ‘keep’ a woman. At first I sort of got annoyed, (in light of what’s going on with STBXW)…. but then I realized that ya know, if it takes all of that to keep a woman loyal to you, I’d rather have a dog or something.
I’m all for a woman wanting to rock with me…..but I am not in the business of giving in to terroristic threats from anyone. It’s the height of arrogance in my opinion that these women really think that they are somehow special to the point of feeling like a man should have to deal with the bullshit in order to keep her around.
(**sarcastically) well thank you for allowing me to serve you so that I can bask in your presence.
I mean, yeah, I’ll be there for a friend in need. I’m all for helping a person or friend out who actually needs my help. But when our entire relationship is based upon me mostly catering to her emotions, fragile ego, and whatever the fuck it is to keep her “happy”…. man stall me out on that.
Who wants to be friends with a person who’s loyalty is soley based on what you can do for them? The entitlement is unbelievable. Who wants to sign up for extra work like that with no rewards or pay. Does she really think that giving up pussy is payment for the headache of having to deal with her bullshit? I mean I see sex as an equal exchange. If she doesn’t enjoy it then she’s not gonna fuck with me for too long anyway …right? Plus if she’s not really enjoying it, it’s kind of trash to me anyway.
Who told these women that they were the prize. I prize friendship and loyalty above all and if I cannot have that, then she is really no prize….to me anyway. So if her loyalty is conditional soley based on what I do for her, then it’s not really much of a ‘friendship’. It’s more like “tricking” or “paying to play”. She is just using me for whatever it is that she deems that she needs at the time. If she’s willing to terminate our ‘friendship’ based on not “needing” me anymore, then why in the world would I dedicate/commit myself to her?
These are grown assed independent women. Often their mouths get too gotdamned spicy. Body counts astronomical. Reasoning …often illogical (to my ears). Expectations of a man …unrealistic. Expensive and did I mention needy? Like bruh, I don’t expect my friends to do shit for me except reciprocate. If I cannot reciprocate….say on a 1 to 1 basis…. i don’t expect them to do anything for me as a requirement to be my friend. Just respect me and be there for me (IF I NEED) it. Just like I’d be there for them. But I don’t feel so entitled to anything from them as to base our friendship of them having to do anything outside of that. If they do more than that, I don’t feel entitled to it, I just appreciate it.
Her (and I suspect) a lot of modern women is that they’ve brought into the hype of thinking that they’re some gotdamned goddess or something. No ma’am, you’re a human being. You eat, sleep, shit, piss, and fart like the rest of us mortals. I don’t give a damn how good she looks nor how good the pussy feels. She’s still a fucking human being. I just don’t get why they expect this sort of preferential treatment. You should actually feel lucky to have a man want to deal with your bullshit like that. Yet, you get a simp/blue pilled sucker who is still going for it, and run his ass through the ringer.
Man, I have learned that emotional attachments to these women are bad for your mental health. They get u hooked and you’d do damn near anything to keep them from leaving. They want you to feel like that too because then they have power over you and once they know that you’re not going anywhere….Game on sucker…..u already lost. The best way to combat that is to ALWAYS be willing to walk away and mean it. And you do that by not getting too emotionally attached to her. This ‘love’ game is a contact sport, you gotta protect yourself at ALL TIMES.
If she’s not chasing, she’s worth replacing. I am not playing into that game of being unable to walk away. My heart does not of an off switch when it turns on. So for me, it’s just best not to turn that mf. on. I think they want men to ‘fall in love’ because it gives them power over him. And once they have it they either take it for granted or abuse it. They become entitled and expect MORE because they know he will do everything in his power to keep her from leaving him.
Nah, I’ll pass. That’s too much power to give to someone else. It’s like emotional slavery. I’d rather have my freedom, personal agency, and not put too much stock on her/ her emotional instability, arrogance, and power trips for my personal mental and emotional health.
Biblically speaking, she’s supposed to be a man’s helpmeet, not the other way around. They got the game fucked up today. This isn’t about “love” for most of them, it’s about power and getting their “needs” met by a sucker.