Lately, I’ve found myself really disliking most women. Not on a personal level insofar as not wanting to be friendly, civil, or cordial. But more like, not wanting to consider a relationship with one. I’d prefer situationships, but it’s like I don’t want to be her ‘man.’
I don’t know if this is redpill baggage or awareness. I will say that I don’t KNOW all women, so I’m sure that there are probably some that I’d consider….but the representation or standard archetype of most modern women seem unappealing to me as far as wifey material.
So when I say women, what I mean is this archetype, not necessarily each individual woman.
That said. These modern women seem like terrible human beings….at least when it comes to being a friend/ let alone a partner. It’s like as men, we’re told that it’s our jobs to make and keep them happy. In the past, I was guilty of thinking that this was my job. I am a self-admitted nice guy. But I don’t think I was intentionally using being ‘nice’ as a means of manipulating women. I just treat people how I’d like to be treated. I thought that it was one ingredient of being ‘attractive’….but not the only one. Of course you need a bit of chemistry, looks, compatibility and so forth. But it does appear that being ‘nice’, is the quickest way to being seen as ‘friends only’ material. I find that women really do like assholes for some reason. But you gotta be a charming asshole. You gotta be somewhat selfish. Moreso than not it seems.
Some people are born with a deficiency of empathy. These guys seem to be doing the best when it comes to getting women. It appears to be a defining characteristic of an ‘alpha’ male. Unfortunately, I have to work on developing my asshole gene. I’m getting there, but I can find myself overcorrecting the ‘nice’ issue and being a straight up asshole. It’s a balancing act and I guess that with any form of self improvement, you’re going to stumble a few times and occasionally bust your ass in the process.
I don’t mind that part. The issue is that I think that most women are selfish, arrogant, materialistic, and have this overwhelming need to always be right. It’s as if though they are ignorant of the fact which makes it even worse. I mean if you’re going to be an insufferable, entitled, and arrogant prick, at least be aware of it. I wonder if changing part of who I am is worth it just to attract someone attracted to that shit anyway. Let alone for someone what also possesses the characteristics i just mentioned.
They think that they are god’s gift to men. Many modern women seem to have this entitlement complex to think that they deserve the best of the best of men….and they’re doing you a favor by ‘settling’ for you. As if we don’t also settle in ways for her. Many seem to think that they are perfect princess who deserve to live a luxury lifestyle with happily ever after vibes. And if a man fails to deliver upon that, he’s a ‘dusty’.
Regardless of her terrible attitude, sense of entitlement, poor communication skills, conditional feminity, mental health issues, less than gorgeous looks, and other ‘imperfections’. For some reason most think they are at least a 7 or above in looks and have the best sex in the world. I never met a woman who said she thinks she’s about average in bed. They all think they are or either are close to the best in the world. This obviously (from experience) and logically is not the case. I don’t care about her money, looks, ambition, or drive. It’s useless to me if she’s going to feel look down on me for not sharing her views about gross materialism.
It seems that in order to measure up to their the standard as a man, you gotta be damn near perfection. It’s like you gotta have looks, money, swag, be a damned comedian, be a corporate thug, a porn star, have ambitions of luxury, be able to fight, be a genius, and have a somewhat a sketchy past. You can’t be a Russel Wison type of guy unless you already have money. But if you’re Nipsey Hustle, then you can have your pick. Peace to king, and may he rest in power, but, it’s unrealistic to think that men who lived that lifestyle is going to turn it around without facing prison or death.
Otherwise, she wants to you damned near be a slave to her wants and needs. And all she brings to the table is ‘encouragement’ (to get more resources) and her unsatiable appetite for MORE. It’s like once you declare your love for her and decide to take her on as your woman….you’re responsible for keeping her happy. A damn near impossible task unless u happen to be good at long term game and stay on top of your shit.
In other words, it’s another job. The stakes for failing to perform in any aspect of this ‘job’ leads to her feeling ‘unfulfilled’ or ‘unhappy’. Woe to the man who actually falls in love with her and feels that he can’t live without her. That fool is put on a perpetual treadmill. She then can use sex/love/attention as a carrot and stick type of deal. Fail or lack in any of these areas, many feel justified in leaving (even if you have a family), or depending on her morals, cheating if another guy can provide one or more of the things you might not be so great at. HER happiness is of paramount importance, superceding family, vows, responsibility, duty, or obligation. The fact that they feel that they ‘deserve’ it no matter what is what turns me off about it. Many people who go through way rougher conditions don’t feel this entitlement.
I’ve learned that being a little toxic and/or emotionally unavailable makes the game infinitely easier to play. I know it sounds fatalistic, but seriously…..most women that I know have had a history of dealing with fuckboys and those men gave them their greatest heartbreaks. As a man, I can generally spot a fuckboy a mile away. It’s not hard. It’s hard to ‘hate’ on them because whatever they are doing seems to work. It seems that women have to force themselves to leave fuckboys while at the same time struggle to find reasons to say with “good guys.” They knowingly choose toxic men out out of lust to sleep with, have kids with, and give their all to…. out of attraction, but when it blows up in their face, they say that ALL MEN ain’t shit.
I digress. The main issue I have with commitment with them is that their love appears to be very much conditional. And then it comes down to “what have you done for me lately”. I refuse to commit to a woman who can so easily discard of me. I’m a human being, not a gotdamned utility. It feels like a fake friendship where you gotta pay to play. Like having a friend who’ll only be nice to you if you do things for them. Like pussy and fidelity should be reward enough for you to deal with all of their bullshit.
As another example, they say they ‘deserve’ a man who is on their ‘level’ financially. Yet that same 80k a year chick has NO PROBLEMS dealing with a 300k a year surgeon. The 50k a year guy better have prospects and ambitions of making more if she even gives him a chance.
Yet most men will take her for who she is…. even if she can’t afford his lifestyle on her own. That made sense back in the 40’s or 50’s when women didn’t have the same opportunities as women do now. But today, I find it selfish AF that they have the potential to be the main breadwinner, but feel a certain way about it if they are. How could you be so entitled to demand something from someone that you wouldn’t be willing to give in return? Do women really want equal rights without equal responsibility? What selfish individuals many of them are.
It’s insane how so many (especially those who claim to be ‘world traveled’) can feel so damned entitled, yet victimized at the same time. Do these chicks actually travel … or do they just vacation… (there is a difference). Vacationing obviously doesn’t make you ‘cultured’ as many like to brag that they are. Have they read a gotdamned history book. Don’t they realize how fortunate they are to be alive in America today? Even with all of our problems, we got it good compared 99% of the history of people who came before us. If you’re in middle class america, then you arguably have it better than at least 95% of the world today. These females with this luxury entitlement complex (regardless of their income are selfish AF).
My stbxw once told me that she wanted to take kiddo on a trip overseas on family ‘trip’….. she said that if I wanted to go, I should pay for my own ticket and she was under no obligation to pay for my ticket. While she does have the ‘right’ to feel that way…..I personally think that if we were a family, then it shouldn’t matter. What if our salaries were reversed and I told her that since she can’t ‘afford’ to pay for her own ticket, then she couldn’t go. Wouldn’t that be kind of a dickish move? I’d never in a million years think that it was an option for her not to go for that reason. Her response…. “well it would be your right and you wouldn’t have to pay for me.” I don’t have a 3rd party to say whether I’m right or wrong on this one, but as of now, I think that her kind of thinking is selfish AF. Especially when it isn’t like I’m out here spending an obscene amount of money on myself anyway. Maybe I’m wrong, but I am starting to suspect that a lot of women probably think like her when it comes to this.
The superficial standards that women put on decent men is what’s going to keep a lot of them single and ran through. Especially those entitled women who make decent money. He could have a great heart, be a great husband, great father, but if his finances isn’t up to par with hers, she feels that she can do better and that she ‘settled’. The part that gets me is that even if he could still ‘provide’ a decent life for her, if he isn’t providing the LIFESTYLE she things she deserves based on her income, then she feels ‘better’ than him. A lot of them will choose ‘LIFESTYLE’ over family with a decent guy. Ironically, if a man decided that he’s better off financially without a wife and kids dragging down his finances, and he wanted to leave, he’s seen as an asshole, narcissist, or deadbeat. When women didn’t have equal rights, men were expected to do this which is understandable. But today, we still are.
Am I fucking crazy? The archetype of these modern western women and (if I’m honest), most that I talk to leave me seriously preferring the single life. It’s really no surprise most dudes don’t want to deal with them on a relationship level. Conditional love and marriage/family just doesn’t seem to mix. They are materialistic and unsatiable in the long run. Work too hard, you’re too ambitious, don’t work enough, you’re not ambitious enough. Hence the high divorce rate with 80% of women filing. IDK man, there has to be some good ones out there. I won’t hold my breath in finding one, but if I do, I’ll greatly cherish her and pray that she isn’t too damaged. Meanwhile, situationships seem to be about the best I can do for now.